I slapped my husband and he beat me, walk away from 5 years or try to fix it?

You slapped him first in the face so you should have expected something back. Granted he did go way overboard and its never right to do that. Ever. But You have no right to slap him just because your a woman. Men have feelings also. It would probably be best if you two got counseling. Just let this be a lesson to you. Oh and to whoever said its because of him being way older is an idiot. Its because of the type of people the two of you are not the age.

Oh man, I'm no expert, but it sounds like this isn't a happy relationship, honey, you haven't done anything wrong, and he has no right to be so distant towards you, it's really unhealthy. I can tell you it's not good for the kids either since I grew up in a home where one of my parents wouldn't show any affection. I used to have a bunch of acceptance issues, and didn't have a real relationship with one of my parents (the one who always pushed the other one away), still don't. And I had no clue what a good marriage was supposed to be like until I saw my friend's parents around each other. There were other things that happened within my family (child abuse), but the worst thing was that I didn't have close family relationships growing up and didn't know that two people could be happy with each other.

By slapping him (1st strike), you opened the door to his attack on yourself which, was over the top as it was not a Defense nor a simple ''retaliation''.

You may well Love him, but that is Not a reason to stay, not if your constant arguing seems to be a albeit a 'Hobby' or a Daily Chore to be gone through.

You either split up what you have, or you see a Counsellor together to work out what is going on, and why, and if and how you can recover your relationship from this slow deterioration.

Good luck.

Sash.

I think he did way to much. He should have hit you or beat you like that. Maybe one smack back and thats it. Sounds like he went over board. You may want to evaluate your relationship with him. Sounds like he is trying to be your daddy instead of your husband, which could be because of the age difference. I have heard people say that women should not dish out what they can not take or that if you hit a man than you should be ready for consequences. But I believe that men should not hit women and that is what I will teach my children some day. You just should not put your hands on a woman.

WALK AWAY! No woman deserves to be beat! Although you slapped him, which was wrong, that does not give him the go head to pin you down with his knee. I understand that you love this man and that you admire the fact that you have a child with him, but would you want your daughter to be in that environment? Think about your daughter. You guys would want to be a good role model to her I hope. She cannot be expose to all verbal and physical violence. Also I suggest you speak with a trusted family member- Dad, Mom, Sister, or a brother and let them know what is going on.

If you truly love him and would like to make this work, I suggest you speak to a marriage counselor.

But I say NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!

Good luck with whatever decision you choose.

I didnt read this whole story

because in no way shape of form should a manbeat up on a woman.

now you keep your hands to yourself,

you give him the same respect as well, you are his wife and no I dont think you should be with a man who would beat you up

that is something I feel you shouldnt accept

when i was younger..I use to fight with my childs father but I use to defend myself to the fullest

bust his nose..throw him down some stairs and things..I dont care to mention.

I thought it was ok as long as I was kickin his *** and fighting back,

but I looked at my child one day and I realized this was my man and if I had to fight him like a man in the streets it didnt matter if I won..I should be loved and protected in my home....always and so should you....leave his *** dont ever settle when it come to a man beating you up

So you hit him and he hit you back only better ,,, huh ?

Is there a reason you couldn't just call him a dick instead ?

And , if you go to the police will you turn yourself in or lie and say he did it for no reason ?

While I don't justify hitting chicks ,I often wonder why they are surprised when they get hit back when they swing first.

Sadly you did hit him first. I don't understand why women think just because they are women that they are "allowed" to hit! NOT SOOO!!!

However, he should of never hit you back nor beat the crap outta ya. Lesson learned I hope. You need to tell him how you feel, you need to tell him that you will not stay in this relationship if he continues to call you names etc...

simple can you ever see yourself happy if you cant then leave if you can then try and work it out i have slapped my partner im not proud of it but he would have never done that to me he walked away calmed down then spoke to me after once we both had some breathing space

YOU put yourself in a mans place. Then YOU got your @ss handed to you. Would you fight back when someone hit you? Don't hit him and he wont hit you.