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Anonymous
Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsWeddings · 3 weeks ago

Can anyone help ?

My niece is getting married and I’m not attending due to the coronavirus , I’m not close to her at all in fact I see her once a year at Christmas and she lives ten minutes away. She never texts or sends invites etc. I’m broke right now due to being laid off. Should I send a card without money ? I feel guilty but I feel like she’s a stranger. What would you do?? 

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago
    Favourite answer

    The card is enough.  

    Gifts are optional even if you do attend, if you want to give a gift you also have up to 1 year after the wedding to give a gift.

    I have a lot of aunts/uncles and some I barely know, I might see them once or twice a year on a good year and I really wouldn't expect a gift from them.

    When one of my cousins got married in another state (he's from here) years ago, I had originally planned to attend but then I lost my job from down sizing and ended up not going.  Once I was back up and working, I sent a gift with a card and later took them to dinner when they came to visit.

    Another cousin just got married this weekend.  Due to covid her wedding was rescheduled 4 times.  I origially RSVP'd yes but ended up not being able to attend as my mom is recovering from covid complications and I take care of her.  So I sent her a card with a gift, but I'm in a position I can afford the gift.

    No gift should be given if you can't afford it, you need to take care of you first.

  • Leslie J
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    Just send a card 

  • ?
    Lv 5
    3 weeks ago

    Send a card without money... Will you write love on the card can you say you love her

  • T J
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Send the card. If on her first anniversary you can send a gift then send it with a card and maybe a brief note.Explaining you past situation.

  • sunshine_mel
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Gifts are ALWAYS optional.

    Given that you've lost your job and it's a pandemic (and you're not close) - there's absolutely no requirement to send anything. A card is nice.

  • drip
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Have you invited her over, included her. Called her? 

    You do not have to send a gift. A card and a nice note if you want to. There is nothing wrong with that.

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