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Emergency Trip To Chicago?
Hey guys!
So I have a question.
One of my VERY good friends is moving back home to Texas from Chicago in a couple of weeks. She called me the other day and wanted to know if I would be willing to fly up to Chicago help her move some stuff, then UHAUL it back down to the Lone Start State.
She's offered to pay for the ticket (which she booked today), pay for the UHAUL, pay for food, pay for a motel (just in case we get tired), drive me all the way home from after we unload the stuff at her parents house.
Now, I am poor but not that damn poor. She offered to pay me well to help her move. She's desperate to get the hell out of Illinois and come back due to personal reasons. I am willing to help her which is no big deal. I requested off from work.
The question is: should I take her up on all of her offers? I don't want to seem needy and I am helping her out. But I am really poor and use a few extra bucks and I don't mind shelling out for the gas and a meal here and there.
How can I go on this trip and not seem needy or selfish? I don't want to seem greedy and what not. She says money is not a problem for her but once she gets home it's back to looking for another job. . . any ideas?
Thanks!
P.S. She's even driving me back home which is two hours out of her way when we get back to TX. I mean wow! . . . I feel kinda like a user even if she offers.
4 Answers
- 1 decade ago
Sounds like it is not as much for the move that she needs your help as the emotional support. I get the impression she has a lot going on in her life right now and really needs a good friend to talk to about it... and figures you two WILL be talking the entire way down. She probably is offering to pay all that because she knows it will be taking you out of your way and you will be losing money by coming to help her but she is that desperate to have a close friend and confidant with her.
If you want, it would be helpful for you to offer to pay for some meals and help with gas a little bit. I don't think she would mind all that much. Tell her you want to fund a 'night out' on the way down because how often in your life will you be able to 'Bob and Louise' it?? That might help off-set the concern you feel about 'taking her for a ride'.
Good luck and I hope you both have fun and have a safe trip back home.
- 1 decade ago
Ok...JJ I'm taking it your a guy (picture) its ok for her to pay for most of it...its her move but yeah help pay for gas or you pay for the motel rooms on the way back...I'm not saying go to the marriott or holiday in I mean its just a night or 2 all you need is beds to sleep in....help with food and snacks for the road and you being there is what matters...help her find a job when you guys get back or plan a night of clubbing when you guys get back (along with other friends) and you pay for you and her plus i don't think she's really to concerned about money if she would offer all that I think her main concern is getting home...you should be honored she called you for help it shows you mean a lot to her...
- Anonymous1 decade ago
keep on thanking her. tell her that you're not trying to scab money off her, that your not trying to be selfish or greedy. if she's your close friend i'm sure she'll understand. if she's offering to pay for you, then that must be what she wants to do. besides she owes you a favour for doing all that work.
- 1 decade ago
Um take the offer, she will be devasted if you dont, and she probably understands your problem. SHe is willing to help, and offered so take that up. If you dont then she will be stick with no one to help her.
