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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, I'm 19, I'm healthy,I'm very attracted to him,what's wrong?
My boyfriend and I have been together for over four years and we are very happy together. The only thing that is frustrating about our relationship is our sex life. (Yes, we use protection... condoms and birth control) It seems like I am never "in the mood" to be intimate with him and it is frustrating because I do not know why. I am healthy, and have never had any medical problems. I am on birth control. I still find my boyfriend VERY attractive and I am truly happy with him. I am only "in the mood" once or twice a month. Does anyone have any ideas as to what is going on?
4 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Birth control can reduce your libido. You've gotten to what is known as the "comfortable" spot in your sex life. Doubtless you've never really strayed far from both of your comfort zones with sex. Try to spice things up - Try different positions, buy some sexy clothes you can tease your significant other with. If all else fails, try toys or props. Include food such as chocolate or honey. Be bold and spontaneous.
Stress can also lead to reducing your libido. Maybe take a weekend vacation away from where ever you live. Try to make it fun.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Get off the Pill! I was on the pill for about 7 - 8 years and let me tell you...I was pretty much never in the mood! I mean, I want to, but then my body didn't seemed like it want to. But when I finally got off the pill, OMG! My boyfriend sure noticed the difference! I wanted it more often, I was thinking about sex more often and orgasms are fantastic! So, think about getting off the pill...because now that I think about it, I can't believe I've missed my whole early twenties of having good sex!
- 1 decade ago
im not really sure whats wrong....maybe you just dont want to have sex all the time. its cool. not everyone does. sometimes it comes and goes. theres nothin wrong with you.
