Yahoo Answers is shutting down on 4 May 2021 (Eastern Time) and the Yahoo Answers website is now in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.

Should 10yrs old Be Deciding if "Killing" is Okay?

I might be over reacting however my gut tells me that I'm not this is how the story unfolded:

Yesterday I sent this email to my 4th grade daughter's Teacher:

"M" was a little upset Friday night and I am not sure what

specifically took place as her translations are not always accurate...

She reported that those believing "Killing" is ok were told to go to one room--Those who do not believe "killing" is ok were to go to the other room... She said she spoke about Abortion? and that some kids laughed at her--and that her teachers stood up and said she was right????

Not sure about what happend?

Adoptive Parents are encouraced not to associate Abortion and Adoption to the child as Abortion is a Choice to Give Birth and Adoption is a Choice to Parent.... So Not sure where she is getting her ideas.....?

Teachers Answer continued below:

Update:

About our literacy discussions as of lately ... Remember the recent email that we sent out explaining our direction with writing? It's all about our personal beliefs and support of them through essays.

We asked parents to have discussions about beliefs and to help their children think beyond school life and to think more globally about real issues that are thought provoking and compelling.

As we began this unit we posed multiple questions that students could agree or disagree with. They chose their stance and worked to defend it.

One of the axioms was "Killing is Wrong" (others were : people learn from their mistakes, life is fair, etc.).

"M" shared her belief and was upported by her teachers to do so. We obviously can not control how children defend their beliefs. We obviously would never share our personal beliefs either.

Is it Me or do You think this is Really NOT a 4th Grade Project?

Update 2:

I am sorry if this is Not Clearly Written... The General Fact is that the 4th Graders are being asked to take a "Belief" position, write an essay and defend their positions...

Didn't seem to be a big deal to me until I was made aware that one of the positions offered was "Killing is Wrong" and the activity used to defend it was to have kid who agree it is wrong go to one side of a room and kids who don't belive "Killing is Wrong" go to the other side of the room...

I have a problem with the Choice and the fact this is 10 yr old... They are not talking about the Death Penalty or War or Even Abortion--they are simply talking about if "Killing is Wrong"

Update 3:

** !9 out of 45 children went to the side of the class the did NOT think "Killing is Wrong"

Update 4:

****billie b *** I would agree with you however my 10 yr old is so special needs this is her last week at regular school she is an adopted child with Fetal Alcohol Exposuer who can't even participate in a regular school setting so I am even a little more upset about this fact and that she was even included but that is a side issue... I don't feel this is a grade school topic... not with the way it was phrased.

Update 5:

****Elizabet... You might be correct and I likely would not feel so concerned with any of my other 3 kids... While I still think the axiom of "Killing is Wrong" seems to open ended I might be reacting to this more given her SN's... Which should not be an issue in another week as she is going to a Day Treatment due to FASD... She is emotionally 5 so this is perhaps more of an alarm to me... I don't recall these kinds of activities with my 23 and 24 yr olds but, they weren't SN and I am not sure how I will feel when my 6 yr old is 10... 2-more days Mainstreamed with 4 hrs SpEd and then full day treatment and I doubt these kids will talk much about killing since they have had such huge issue ???

Thanks Everyone...

14 Answers

Relevance
  • 1 decade ago
    Favourite answer

    I do not think you are over-reacting. If it was my son's class, I would definitely be going in and having discussions with the teacher and administration.

    Maybe I am personally over-reacting, but I would tell the administration that I felt as though they were segregating kids almost as if they were profiling them. Those who felt killing was okay would be monitored more closely than those who didn't. Obviously, this would disturb me.

    I'd also be concerned that children are being forced into defending their belief system at the age of 10. At a time when peer pressure is so strong, aren't the teachers setting these kids up for problems with other students, especially if the less popular kids vote differently than the popular ones? How does that help the children?

    I'd also be annoyed that a teacher felt as though he/she had the education and resources that a child would need if the questions brought up more indepth issues - such as adoption with your child. Shouldn't a guidance counselor be there to help discuss these things in class if necessary or at least pull the child aside to discuss further if necessary?

    Again, I personally may be over-reacting, but I would be upset too.

    Source(s): Mom to 5 yr old.
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Actually I will take up with the teacher on this one.

    It is a normal course of study for 4th graders to have to write a paper defending an argument.

    In this case the argument was a bit touchy, "Is killing wrong?"

    To most adults, the answer is obvious buy yet the proof, the writing of the document defending the argument will vary from individual to individual. Some will claim a religious stance, Or a moral stance.

    An entire oriental philosophy was based on a book rationalizing killing.

    So we pose the question to a 4th grader. Now kids are known for coming up with wild rationalizations anyhow, and it would be a lot of fun to see what the arguments were on both sides of the fence.

    It is because it "should" be a simple answer, that makes it a tough assignment.

    It is probably a better assignment for a 4th grader in fact then a college grad student, as the poor college grad student could spend the rest of their life rationalizing their argument, while the 4th grader can simply confess, "Killing is wrong because Mommy says it is", or "Killing is Ok because Daddy is in Iraq and he might have to kill someone"

    (By the way, I get the impression the problem you have with this whole thing is more based on the exposures of your special needs child, which I can not fault you on, but for the average 4th grader, its a great assignment)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Wow...that is a lot for a 10 year old. I feel as if a 10 year old should be ready for life's realistic issues but should be discussed with a parent based on whether you feel your child is ready. I would have a fit if my 6 yr old had a discussion about that in school.

    I would meet with the teacher for a better understanding because it doesn't seem right to me. You could always call another school and ask about what their 4th graders are learning...I think that you should push this. I feel as if "beliefs" could have been discussed through something else...some other topics..I think that Killing and Abortions and Adoptions are big issues.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you're doing your daughter a disservice to try and protect her from the realities of life. The fact of the matter is that 10 year olds DO think about issues like this, and writing can be a very positive and healthy way to work out their feelings about them. The only issue I see here is the fact that students were asked to separate into different rooms based on their beliefs. If the writing is personal, there's no need to be placed in different settings to write. I also think that this project is really interesting and is real teaching. The 4th graders in my school were "taught" to produce one really good piece of writing that could be adapted to whatever writing prompt they were given by the state for the writing test. All that taught them was how to take a test. The teachers at your daughter's school are teaching them how to express themselves logically and coherently, DESPITE any sort of issues or shortcomings they may have. Your daughter's teacher still has high expectations for her, whereas other teachers might have chosen to exclude her. Your daughter's teacher thinks she's capable of thinking and writing for herself. Perhaps it's time you recognize your daughter's abilities as well....AND, talk about the issues with your daughter. That's what the emails were sent out for in the first place- to discuss important issues and create a dialog between parents and their children.

    Source(s): PS- Maybe I'm understanding this incorrectly, but it sounds like a STUDENT brought up abortion with the issue, not a teacher. If a student brings up the issue, that means the issue is important to the student. Our children DO have opinions on touchy issues, and I think it's a GOOD thing that they're allowed to have an outlet to discuss them. I remember being young and having very strong opinions about things like war, rape, and abortion. My views have changed and matured as have I, but I DID have opinions about them. The only way I felt able to express my beliefs about some of these things was through my diary (writing). I would have loved if a teacher asked me what I thought. If, after reading these answers, you still feel it's inappropriate, you always have the right to request an alternative assignment for your daughter.
  • Jessy
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    WHAT??????

    Whatever your position on the topic of abortion, I don't think I want my child to have to consider abortion at age 10!!!!! That is just sad to be honest, why should kids have to think about that. Why not the topic of segregation which I can get a whole lot of great lesson plans on that which wouldn't be as disturbing as abortion. That teacher over stepped the boundaries big time.

    I really didn't live a sheltered life, but I seriously didn't know about abortion till i got out of high school...I know, crazy huh? Having to consider this at age 10 is taking a part of her innocence away in a slight way, but that's my opinion...

  • 1 decade ago

    I can't see the teacher's answer. Try to Edit and I will come back, this sounds very interesting!

    Edit: I can see it now.

    I can understand the project about defending your beliefs but I really think that using killing as an example was a bit too much.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well..

    That is kind of heavy.

    I think it would give a very good insight into the children's minds.

    It might also be a very dangerous thing to mess with.

    I think something this serious should be held off until more maturity.

    But I don't really understand in the point of the assignment anyway.

    If they are going to give it they should make it more specific i.e. Abortion, Capital Punishment, Mercy Killing, etc.

  • Cam
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    The concept of defending beliefs is appropriate. The subject of killing however is not acceptable to me for a 10 year old.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Not everyone who graduates from college and has a teaching certificate is qualified to be around impressionable kids, especially one with an "agenda." The exercise sounds grossly inappropriate and the teacher's competence should certainly be investigated by the school board.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would hope that by 10yrs of age my child was well aware that killing for any reason is extremely wrong and unforgivable. I would also expect him to be capable of standing up for that belief. There are too many children not being taught what beliefs are and how to stand for them in this society which would be why the prison system is literally overflowing. I see nothing wrong with this assignment.

Still have questions? Get answers by asking now.