How can I prove to my husband...?

providing for your children .....

what dose that mean?

money ... or

a warm loving home with happy mum n dad ! sure they need things but money wont make them happy a happy mum and dad will use the love thing make him relies that as long as you and him are happy and love each other and your children they will be happy!

I doubt that facts are going to change his mind. 1) He is really not that sure that this means a lot to you, and he is wondering why you can't want something else a lot that

will earn you a better pay?

2)If social work is truly your vocation, I would suggest you find out all the good it has done, and how people have gone from poverty to a decent life, and how it will make you a better and more well-rounded person and really a better wife to him. 3) If you can calm his fears about the money someway that would be a help also.

Can you figure out why he has to have such a high

standard of living? Has he been poor all his life?

he is simply afraid of not having enough money. You must either show him that it's okay to live on less, or you must figure out how you both can be happy and make big bucks at the same time. good luck!

First of all the degree choice is excellent! I want to get my masters' in Social Work. The thing you have to remember is that you need to try to go as far as you can go in your degree. There are A LOT of choices for you in the Mental Health field. I worked for a company where the QP ( qualified professionals) made $45,000 a year. I also did an internship where the lady started making $30,000 and worked her way up to supervisor and made over $50,000 a year. Both are MA's in Social work.

I think a lot of people have a misconception of a Social Work degree- that you work with the county and make $20,000. What people don't know is that their are a lot of options for you. You can work in a hospital, for the county, the state,local counseling centers ( if you have the proper certification) mental health clinics, school systems, and open your own Therapy center.

My husband and I don't make that much money and we are getting by fine. I think your husband just wants you and your family to have the best life- which is sweet. The best thing you can do is sit him down and tell him all the options. Talk with a counselor at the college you are looking into and ask them for advice.

I wish you the best of luck and remember go as far as you can in degree- you will love it!

You won't be condemned to a life of poverty if your husband makes a decent income.

You WILL,however, be condemned to a life of working with people who have very little value. You'll be working with the dregs: the lazy, the stupid, and the weak of character. Most of them will be unworthy of your attention or concern. Sure, SOME will be victims of circumstance, but you'll be given little flexibility to direct more attention to them than to the indolent and the drug-addicted. After all, you'll be an apparatchek of the state, obliged to follow the rules of the all-knowing bureaucracy.

Plus you'll likely become a government lackey and associate with committed leftists who hate achievement, capitalism and those who make their government jobs possible: taxpayers.

I'd learn a trade or skill with real economic value. You'll have much greater self-esteem, you won't become resentful of those who are involved in generating wealth, and you'll be engaged in something productive.

OIMF

I dont know where you live, or if you have kids yet. How are you planning on raising your kids?

I work in a child care center and i can also tell you from experience of raising my youngest brother, that the cost of raising a child starts at $250 a month and goes down as they get older. Unless you want to be a materialistic family that buys their kids everything they want .

This is a realistic number.

Where I live, we have a great public school system IOWA.

Also, your family want be happy unless you are. Can you imagine yourself doing anything besides social work for the rest of your life?

Hey sis. His problem is that he is so careless with money, that he depends on you to be the one to bring in enough money to pay most of the bills so that he can blow the majority of his pay check. Really, you guys could make it on just his pay if he weren't so selfish.

Your kids love you more than anything. All they want is for you guys to be happy.

I think you will make a wonderful counselor. God knows you've helped me a bunch. If you can give as much attention to your patients that you do to your family and friends, I don't think you will have to worry about being broke.

Go do it, and tell you know who to kiss your ***. You've carried him, now it's his turn to take care of you. Maybe he will grow up out of this experience too.

The whole point is to get him to respect you and your choice if you are happy at what YOU choose then he needs to support you. Whats the point of making a ton of money if you guys cant emotionally or mentally support each other. then when you have kids you cant mentally or emotionally support them either. When it all come down to the end when you die your kids arent going to say damn my parents have alot of money they will be focusing on how much you love them and were there for them. Do what makes you happy otherwise you will be miserable and make a miserable mother.

I have only 1 zinger for him. "If you wanted to live your life with someone who made alot of money, you should have done it before you married me."

I think what you are considering is quite admirable and would bring you great satisfaction. There should be man, many more people like you. Good luck.

Unfortunately, he's right. The trick is to convince him that life is not all about money and that you will be compensated somewhat. Good luck with that. The downside is that all of your effort and good intentions will probably be spent for naught. It is a bottemless pit and not capable of change. You will be like the kid with his finger in the hole in the dike.

you do make lot of money in the social work field but the people you have to deal with are not easy, they will drain all your energy.