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My Brother-in-law and sister-in-law live across the street from me and my husband and our 2 sons. My oldest son (19) has always been pretty close to them, my youngest not so much. he had a lot of behavioral issues growing up (He's 14 now) but for the most part everything is under control now other than your normal teen stuff. My BIL has taken my oldest to the World of Wheels car show every year since he was like 6, he has never asked my youngest to go. This year it's him, my son and my 12 yr old nephew. I went over to their house to drop something off last week end and he asked me if my oldest asked our youngest to go to the show with them. I hadn't heard so I asked my oldest son about it and he was pretty clear that he didn't want his brother to come with him. I think he's a little territorial because this has always been his time with his uncle, he even groaned when his cousin started going along a couple of years ago. Well, I know my youngest wants to go very badly, but the invitation from his brother was not really inviting, he basically told him he was invited but he really didn't want him to go. I am upset with my brother in law because instead of him asking my youngest to go, he had my oldest ask. This makes me believe that he is doing it because he feels he has to and my youngest is feeling that as well. Stuff like this always happens and my son feels like an outcast now. My youngest has learning disabilites and was recently accepted into a private school that is very expensive, but he needs the structure and one on one tutoring they offer and my in-laws have criticized us for this making my son feel even less a part of their family. I don't know if we should confront them or just let it go and live with it. It's really getting to me. Confronting them will most likely cause a conflict and they live across the street, that is my dilemma there. What do you think?